Years ago, my husband and I had a pretty pathetic marriage. We fought all the time and yes, our intimacy was horrible. I controlled much of that area in our lives. We were intimate when I felt like it. It wasn’t until one day I was studying God’s Word and reading a popular Christian author when I discovered, I was committing a sin by NOT enjoying healthy intimacy with my husband. God’s Word says, 1 Corinthians 7:5 (NLT) 5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
Satan does not want married couples to enjoy this wonderful time of intimacy. Have you ever wondered how is it when you were dating it was so hard to refrain from premarital sex, but once married, it’s like the biggest chore to make love? Don’t be fooled by Satan. As church leaders, healthy intimacy is vital in your marriage. My marriage changed dramatically when I finally understood the fighting and distance had to do with my reluctance to enjoy my husband. Today, I proudly admit that my husband and I have a great marriage! Yes we still fight and have issues like normal people, but the coldness and distance is no longer there. When we tell people how often we use to fight they don’t believe us. That’s because we demonstrate public affection and love now. It’s not a chore to hold hands or hug each other in public. Our healthy intimacy made us fall in love all over again.
If you’re a church leader, do not neglect your spouse. The church is secondary when it comes to your family and every moment you dedicate to your marriage you become a better church leader – and servant for God’ Kingdom.